On the journey of life, we meet a lot of people and make many friends but only a select few of them bother to know the real you and just like that they become a very integral part of your life. Even if you don't talk or meet on a daily basis, there exists a very special and true bond. It often happens with me that when I acquaint with someone new and start knowing that person, I get so intrigued; it becomes difficult to imagine my life without that one person. Is it just me or everyone feels so ?
And then suddenly when you are forced to move on or get over a very dear friend, what should one do ? Well you might wonder why I need to move on. Fights, misunderstandings, busy life are not among the reasons.
What if it’s an outright betrayal ? Not so easy to overlook, is it ?
The person has been lying to you every single day of his/her life and never once has your trust in them faltered. And a day comes, when you see past the camouflage and realize what a fool you've been. Obviously the initial reaction is shock and then it turns to disbelief, anger, rage, sobs, coldness and then back to anger.
I'd like to quote here: When you mess with one part of a person's life, you're not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can't be that precise and selective.
Humans are fallible ! And so, after a while, maybe you find it in you to forgive. People regard hatred as a weapon to avenge those who've hurt you. But in the process, all you do is hurt yourself more. It is so foolish to let the anger and the betrayal affect you when all you did was trust someone you loved and regarded as a true friend.
And then, what if that person is willing to accept the vice and wants to reconcile ?! Certainly, I'm not inflamed anymore, but how is it possible to regain the trust ?! Going back to something is harder than we think. I'd question the authenticity of every single word, thereupon. It would be unfair for the both of us. It’s like that saying - Once broken, can never be the same. And I feel the need to mention, I'm not being frigid. I do feel the lacuna !
But what's more important is to never let that one chapter (words can be deceptive) of your life question the loyalty of your other friends. Never let one (beep) person force you to change your perspective towards trust or tamper with it.
In matters of trust, be compassionate enough to forgive and forget, but it solely depends on an individual, if you are willing to give that person a chance to regain it (or sufficiently prepared to be shattered again ;-) )
